For children, divorce can be very painful, sad, and confusing. At any age, kids may feel uncertain and angry at the prospect of mom and dad splitting up. Thus, acting out in bad and rebellious behaviors or becoming depressed and introverted. As a parent, we can make the process and its effects less painful for our children. Helping them cope with divorce means providing stability in your home and attending to your children’s needs with a reassuring, positive attitude. It won’t be a seamless process, and thus without problems.
As parents, it’s normal to feel uncertain about how to give our children the right support through a divorce or separation. It may be uncharted territory, but we can successfully navigate this painful time and thus, help our children emerge from it feeling loved, confident, and strong. If not, they will go on to suffer the consequences of our mistakes.Suffering life long scars.
There are many ways we can help your children adjust to separation or divorce. Your patience, reassurance, and listening ear can minimize tension as children learn to cope with new circumstances. By providing routines kids can rely on, you remind children they can count on you for stability, structure, and care. And if you can maintain a working relationship with your ex, you can help kids avoid the stress that comes with watching parents in conflict. Such a transitional time can’t be without some measure of hardship, but you can powerfully reduce your children’s pain by making their well-being your top priority.
When it comes to telling your kids about your divorce, many parents freeze up. Make the conversation a little easier on both yourself and your children by preparing significantly before you sit down to talk. If you can anticipate tough questions, deal with your own anxieties ahead of time, and plan carefully what you’ll be telling them, you will be better equipped to help your children handle the news.
It’s vital to be honest with your kids, but without being critical of your spouse. This can be especially difficult when there have been hurtful events, such as infidelity, but with a little diplomacy, you can avoid playing the blame game or using your children as pawns against the other parent.
In this show Scott goes into great depth and detail explaining his parents divorce and the serious scarred childhood he suffered therefrom. As well as, discussing his own difficult marriage and divorce and the serious consequences of that on his children.
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Some content of the written portion of this blog was obtained from http://www.helpguide.org/mental/children_divorce.htm